闲人

Everything is conditional. That is, things happen when the conditions for them to arise are fulfilled.

In a distressing situation, various conditions lead to the event being experienced as distressful, including but not limited to the following:

Individual history
- past similar experiences
- values, habits, beliefs, instilled throughout the individual's lifespan

Cognitive aspects
- beliefs, thoughts, interpretations of a situation that have not been objectively investigated
- unconstructive worrying without trying to think of solutions

Emotional aspects
- whether one is able to sit with uncomfortable feelings or through the struggle with uncomfortable feelings, evoke secondary emotions (feeling guilty about being angry, for example)
- whether one acknowledges and understands emotions or denies and avoids them
- whether one is able to manage and express emotions in an appropriate manner

Behavioral aspects
- whether one is able to engage in productive actions despite the distress, or become paralyzed and become more distressed because no progress is made
- whether one is willing to try various different actions in order to find the best solution
- whether one is able to engage in constructive behavior despite not having immediate gratification

Coping strategies
- cognitive, emotional or behavioral: whether it actually helps or just provides short term relief over long term cost

如果发现自己在寻找的东西其实并不存在，该当如何？

想象中，觉得要找到自己的热忱，还是信念。找到了就可以... 找到了就可以？真的去探索只发觉自己的动机有点扭曲。要打着热忱和信念的名堂去做一些荒唐的事吗？还是觉得打着这样的名堂，努力就不会觉得辛苦？

也不是说这些东西不重要，只不过，说没有热忱信念然后颓废只是没有勇气的做法罢了。

说没有言论自由的国家对人民不公平，来到言论自由的国家，越是无知的人越是大声的发表无知的言论。

来自政府不怎么照顾人的国家，觉得政府不够好。来到政府好好的照顾人的国家，这里的人觉得照顾得不够好。

到头来能够改变些什么？人永远不满足，人永远可以依赖就会依赖。永远在投诉。永远在奢望。

最近玩无双。

张辽为了“武”的意义而烦恼。最后得到的答案是“武”是超越个人的。如徐晃所说，武不是属于自己的，自己只是体现武的一个容器。

我需要信念，需要贯彻自己的信念活下去。之前追寻着“强”。看了张辽的故事，自己想，“强”的意义是什么？觉得强是为了应付生活中可能面对的难题的一个保障吧。然后觉得，除了强以外，还要有“智”来决定，“强”要怎么运用。或者说，智慧也是一种强吧。而且，就算找到了我想找的东西，也不会变成一个强者，只是变成一个能够体现出一定程度适应能力的一个容器罢了。