闲人

Our existence, ultimately, is shaped. The will to survive and reproduce shaped by evolution. The will to pursue fame, wealth, love and something or another shaped by society, shaped by the media, shaped by what the country wants us to believe. Shaped by what we want to believe.

As such there are no absolutes. It should not, for example, be absolutely taken for granted that one should value survival over all else. The value of survival is shaped by experience just as something else may be shaped into a value that exceeds survival. When we see the homeless guy on the street you can pity him for not having a home, or you can envy him for not having to be a corporate slave.

Hence it is always possible to unshape yourself, or shape yourself in a different way. We are not solids, destined to stand till we are worn to dust. We are not fluids, destined to take the shape of the containers we are forced into. We are not gases, being swept around by unseen forces. We are, at times, compelled to take one role or the other. However our role is never fixed eternally.

We are free.

短期的胜负可能取决于一个人的先天条件。长期来讲，更重要的是态度。在思考能力之上，更重要的是思考些什么？愿意花多少精力去思考？愿意花多少努力去做。

不如意事常八九。要把这句话当成感叹而悲观，还是要把这句话当成忠告而随时有心理准备？

要往好的方面看。并不是指盲目的乐观。盲目的乐观和盲目的悲观一样达不到目标。重要的是理智地衡量事情，看到好的也看到坏的，然后思考最好的处理方法。

人会把不同的事情归咎于环境或自己。过分把失败归咎于自己，会变得自卑沮丧。过分地把失败归咎于环境，会停滞不前，不上进。还是要理智地衡量事情，然后从自己的失败中学习，从环境对不起你的地方思考，要怎么在下一次不被环境这样的影响。

简单地讲，要有清晰的目标，然后问自己，我这样的态度有没有帮助我达成目标。